Comments on J. Rose Online: Ask J.Rose: Growing Up Multi-Racial

Hey, J

Stumbled upon your blog...love your ...

2009-03-25T08:09:00.000-07:00

Hey, J

Stumbled upon your blog...love your insight. Refreshing, candid. I hope to read more, so I"ll subscribe. :)

You have two boys? Me too. Nice to meet another momma in this blogosphere...and another filipina. :)

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Hey Girl love this post! I've been called hisp...

2008-11-24T12:13:00.000-08:00

Hey Girl love this post! I've been called hispanic/asian, indian, hawaiian, and all of that too. But really I'm half Black & Filipino. I do take pride that even though I grew up in San Diego I learned to speak Tagalog fluently. Most of my friends are Filipino and my hubby is 100% Pinoy. Yes I do even enjoy balut, bagoong, and dinuguan! I do check the Asian box because I learned so much about Philippines classification from my Asian studies classes.

But I've struggled with people out there saying I wasn't trying to be black enough, whatever that means. I've dated brothas, I just never been w/ one that caught my interest. It wasn't until college when I started taking Black culture classes that helped me define who I am. My only struggle now is making sure my daughter embraces both her heritages from now on.

Anywho... just wanted to speak on it...I could probably go on and on about this topic in your little comment box,LOL! Mabuhay!! -Resa

haha, this is going to be a long comment :)

2008-11-23T11:11:00.000-08:00
haha, this is going to be a long comment :)

- I'm full filipino, but you can't really tell from the way I look. A lot of people have guessed lots of other nationalities, but filipino is always last, lol.

- I'll typically check off Pacific Islander, unless they define the difference between PI/Asian (they usually do for government forms, in which case I am Asian)

- I do see a difference in the way kids are raised here vs. PI, but I think that also comes down to the family structure. Here, everyone wants to live on their own, have the "American Dream" of owning their own home and having their own family. In PI it feels like the family dynamic is different, where families will just expand where they are and buy a house next door/nearby and stay closer to one another.

- I soooooooo run on filipino time. It totally hinders my effort to get to work on time, haha.

- I live in a racially diverse area (NoVa/DC), but more often than not, most of my friends while growing up were caucasian. It wasn't until I went to college (a predominantly all-white college, mind you) where I met a lot of my Asian friends through a cultural group. It's not something that bothers me, since I was raised not to discriminate anyone based on their appearance/heritage, but I feel like I'm a very american filipino girl.

- I know I will have bi-racial, if not multi-racial children, because I've never dated a filipino guy =P My BF now is half Greek and half Euro-mutt, so if we had kids they would definitely be multi-racial, and that's perfectly fine with me!

really really good post hon...i'm full filipino to...

2008-11-21T10:03:00.000-08:00

really really good post hon...i'm full filipino too, but no one every believes it...i think that's a common thing with filipinos because of our mixed heritage...with that said, my boyfriend is black and puerto rican and we'll definitely have multi-racial kids...these days it's funny because people think it's "cool" to be mixed...because a lot of magazines and media have gone for this look...i'm a very open person...i just hope that my future kids don't run into the ignorant sects of society that still exists out there.

@kia - well said. I admire your take on thi...

2008-11-20T17:25:00.000-08:00

@kia - well said. I admire your take on things regarding your race.

I think there is just too much ignorance in the world and that is what makes it difficult. We are all people right? We are all part of the same race, the human race. If only everyone can think that way then we'd get along with each other.

thanks for sharing.

great topic.. (i like laalaa's format)-- j.rose yo...

2008-11-20T17:11:00.000-08:00

great topic.. (i like laalaa's format)-- j.rose you are asking for a LONG comment ;)

-i'm black american... i'm from washington dc, which is majority black.

-growing up a common joke that i would hear is.."hmmm while we would be out in the field, you'd be in the house with massa" (referring to slave status) ...............to this day, i still hear that joke! not as often, but even when i hear it, it sends a white line down my back.

-in college and after (outside of my all black DC) that's when i began to get questioned about my nationality. it surprised me because where i'm from, girls that look like me are 100% black. other parts of the US, sometimes, girls that look like me are bi/multiracial.

-in every stereotype there's a bit of truth, meaning that there are some ppl that subscribe to those notions... not all people. the stereotypes about my culture bother me A LOT. our cultural past is so sensitive in this country. many of us are the way we are today because of our past. i know it was soooo long ago, but the mental damage is real and even now people aren't taught what they need to be taught to get out of the cycle and rise. they don't even realize how they are thinking and how destructive it is. there are things that could have been handed down to me from my grandmother (she grew up during a time where mingling with white people meant risking your life/getting killed) and even thru my parents actions, but i choose not to accept that because i know i can make a difference and determine my destiny. that's not what my parents were taught.

okay i think i've written waayyyy too much hehehe

@laalaa - thx for sharing! I commend you fo...

2008-11-20T13:04:00.000-08:00

@laalaa - thx for sharing! I commend you for not letting the bullies get to you while you were growing up! that shows a lot of maturity on your part to take that and think positively, "The bullies made me appreciate myself alot more than put my self worth down."

*claps*

-I am multi-racial.

-I only ...

2008-11-20T12:39:00.000-08:00

-I am multi-racial.

-I only learnt of my mother's side as unfortunatly personally I do not know my father.

-I was teased ALOT for being mixed race, mostly because there wasnt alot of mixed race people when I was growing up, so my skin colour differing from either the whites/blacks which seemed to bother them, at times I wasn't white enough for the white kids & definitly not black enough for the black kids. Younger my hair was very long and wavy, but needed alot of attention more than the white kids who could wash&go. But I still get it now; girls dislike me just because I'm mixed.

-I'm proud of every part of me, as that's who I am. The bullies made me appreciate myself alot more than put my self worth down.

-The one thing that annoys me about people who thinks all Jamaican people are pot-smokers and yardies and pure trouble, you get good and bad in every race.

-I feel comfortable with any nationality who accepts me for me.

- Good post :)

-;laalaa